As part of an ongoing series, Owen and Fred would like to help their fellow man by delivering helpful advice in one of the world's most confusing subjects: women. Join us as we explore different ideas and techniques to make yourself a desirable man that any woman would love to meet. This first week's article graces on some great habits that a man can conquer to help meet women everyday. These general tips are not easy ways to snatch up women, but rather, self-focused qualities that will make you a better man and ultimately make you more attractive to women:
Just Be Yourself:
I know this first tip pretty much negates this entire article but it's true! There's not much else any person should do than be themselves. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man that is comfortable and confident in his own skin. Every woman can point out a man who is trying way too hard to look good, act cool, or pickup women. It's unattractive and fake. Focus on yourself and don't worry about what others might think or if someone will like the way you look. If you're happy, it will show. Typically someone who can make themselves happy can help someone else be just as happy. Women can see that.
Stop Caring About Women:
Again, seems like the complete opposite advice but it really does help. The more you obsess over finding the right girl or going out on a date the less likely you are to find what you're really looking for. When going out, don't set yourself up for disappointment by saying "Tonight, I'm going to meet a girl," but rather say, "Tonight, I'm headed out, I'm going to have some fun." Be reasonable, you might not meet a girl, but if you aim to just have a good time and not care about what happens, you're more likely to be open to a situation you might not expect. Three of your guy friends invite you to the batting cages yet you refuse because you want to hit a bar and find a girl. You sit alone at the bar while your three friends have a great time at the park. Afterward they decide to get some food where a cute waitress invites them to a friend's party. You missed out. If you weren't thinking about women you would have had fun with your friends and been part of the situation.
Yes, there are women out there that enjoy a rugged man with a wild beard and long hair, but I can guarantee you there's a lot more women looking for a man who can dress appropriately for a situation, keep a well-trimmed beard and his hair in check. It shows signs of maturity and organization in other aspects of life. This doesn't mean dress to the nines and get your hair trimmed every other day. It means looking respectable. It means changing out of the flip flops before you head out to dinner or putting on a collared shirt for your evening plans. You're going to feel better about yourself and much more confident to handle the woman that just complimented your beard.
Get Out of Your House:
If there's no women in your house, then more likely than not, there won't be if you stay inside. You have to get out of the house and put yourself in situations where men and women are. Cafes, grocery stores, libraries, bars, parks, parades are all places that you can meet a really great woman but you have to go to those places first. It's a game of odds. The more you're in a public place with women, the more likely it is that one of them will talk to you. Easy as that. Furthermore, don't be afraid to do something alone. The support of friends is great but often times can distract you from being yourself and grabbing an opportunity when you see one. Time alone allows you to push yourself to be social, to talk to strangers, and enjoy a situation.
Express Interest in Your Hobbies:
A great way to meet someone that will share similar interests is by following your own interests and hobbies for self-indulgence. If you enjoy reading and writing, go to book readings. If you enjoy comedy, attend an open mic or hit up a comedy club. If you have a blossoming interest in flowers, find gardens and parks that may interest you or join a public garden. The act of involving yourself in something you love is a great way of displaying commitment to your interests and it is very attractive for a woman to see.